Lizzo shocked fans this week by revealing she waited until her 30s to lose her virginity, fulfilling a personal vow she made as a young girl. The 37-year-old singer shared the intimate details during a March 31 appearance on the “Friends Keep Secrets” podcast, hosted by Benny Blanco, Dave “Lil Dicky” Burd and Kristin Batalucco.
Lizzo, whose real name is Melissa Viviane Jefferson, told the hosts that she did not have sex for the first time until shortly after her historic wins at the 2020 Grammy Awards.
At the time, she was 31 years old and had just taken home three trophies, including Best Pop Solo Performance for her hit “Truth Hurts.” “Isn’t that crazy? I wasn’t even thinking about it… I promised myself when I was younger that I wouldn’t have sex until I won a Grammy,” Lizzo said during the interview.
She clarified that while the milestone was reached in January 2020, the event did not actually take place on the night of the ceremony. The Detroit-born flutist admitted that she previously felt a sense of shame regarding her “late bloomer” status. To avoid awkward conversations with friends, she said she often faked confidence and lied about her sexual history for years. Lizzo recalled a specific instance where she deflected questions from girlfriends by shouting a vulgar joke just to fit in. Religion played a significant role in her journey toward intimacy.
Lizzo explained that during her teenage years, she and members of her church made a pact to remain celibate until marriage. This upbringing, combined with her career ambitions, contributed to her decade-long delay in seeking sexual experiences. The singer also recounted a negative experience regarding her first kiss, which did not happen until she was 21.
She described the New Year’s Eve encounter as “terrible” and said it felt forced, leaving her feeling as though a major life milestone had been ruined. By sharing her story, the “About Damn Time” artist said she finally feels a sense of relief. “I feel a weight off of my chest right now,” she told the podcast hosts.
Lizzo is currently in a high-profile relationship with Myke Wright, whom she began dating long after her 2020 breakthrough. The revelation has sparked widespread conversation online about the pressures women face regarding sexual timelines. Lizzo’s career continues to be defined by her message of radical self-love and body positivity, and this latest confession adds a new layer of transparency to her public persona.
