Ari Lennox recently had a candid conversation with the Effective Immediately podcast about her dating history. According to the “Shea Butter Baby” singer, she spent too much of her early years giving toxic men attention. While Ari acknowledged that she still struggles with being attracted to “toxic energy,” she’s much more cognizant than in years past. She also expressed regret for not paying the “sweet energies” the attention they deserved.
“I think I have a thing for toxic energy,” Ari says. “Because when I look back on all of these energies, it’s a shame I gave them so much time, and there were sweet energies that I didn’t. Now, I see those sweet energies getting married and starting families, [and] I’m just like, ‘dang that could’ve been me,’ if I had recognized the security in those individuals at the time.”
Ari Lennox says she regrets giving toxic men attention and not the sweet ones, now that she’s older and not married.
“It’s a shame I gave the toxic ones so much energy instead of the sweet ones. I see the sweet ones getting married and starting families I’m like, that could’ve… pic.twitter.com/p7tL3G8hvY
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(@wyd_stan) March 10, 2026
